Bad parents teach their children that uncontrollable circumstances will define all that they do, whilst good parents teach their kids that they 'can' be whatever they want. Great parents however tell the next generation, without doubt, that they 'will' be whatever they want to be.
It is with this in mind that we analyse our approach to progression, success and control, in a bid to understand how our minds may be sabotaging us and limiting our ability to achieve.
The difference between 'I can' and 'I will' may seem trivial to some, and admittedly it is less distant a chasm than that between 'I can' and 'I can't', but between these parallel mental lines there hides a secret that many never uncover, nor truly capitalise on.
'I can' is a word that defines the speakers understanding that they have the ability to achieve a task. However, although the ability is identified, there is still space for failure. 'I can' can be very easily followed by 'I could have'. The phrase holds doubt.
'I will' however, allows little space for error. The speaker not only understands that they can achieve the task, but they also promise to complete it.
Think of your personal ambition. Can you get a promotion in your current job or will you?
The difference between your answer will define whether you accomplish this next step through conviction or leave it up to luck. Those who've failed said 'I can't' or at best 'I can', whilst those who have succeeded will have always said 'I will'.
I used to struggle with my weight. I tried to diet, I exercised, I juiced and I purged yet I didn't lose the weight I wanted to. It was not until I knew that I would that I did. Your mind is your most powerful ally and you will spend your entire life learning from it, whilst simultaneously never fully understanding it.
That said, you can choose to get it on-side or you can struggle to live disregarding it. One fact remains, using 'I will' instead of 'I can' allows your greatest ally to tap in and help you take on the world.